I think its really funny that I seem to be the one people go to when they have relationship or guy/girl advice. I mean, I've only had one really serious relationship, and yet, I guess I give good perspective because people keep coming back for more. Haha. I like it though, I enjoy being able to help.
Recently, one of my friends texted me saying that a girl had given him her number the previous night at a party. He asked me if he should ask her out to coffee. I said definitely yes, after all, what have you got to lose!
I recommended texting which is less forward than a call, plus it gives the girl time to think. I never pick up numbers I don't recognize...so a text is a good plan in this case.
I also suggested that he not specify a day and time to get together but to leave it more open, such as, "Hey! I had a lot of fun talking to you last night, would you like to get coffee sometime this week when you are free?" It can be confusing when you ask her out for coffee on Thursday at 2pm because the girl might say she has class...and you don't know if she is just saying this to get out of seeing you or if she really does have class (but would like to go out with you another time). So asking in an open-ended fashion is a good way to go.
FYI, girls like to be asked out, even if they decide to say no in the end. The timing might not be right or they really just might not be interested. But that doesn't change the fact that they, more often than not, appreciate the bravery and open interest. So don't be shy to ask!
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Please boys, take a hint
Okay so I already spoke earlier about the dude who kept using the "gorgeous" and "babe" speech. But I felt I should follow up on that story since this is kind of comedic...
So just a re-cap for those who didn't read my post below...met a dorky guy at a club, accidentally gave him my number. We chatted via facebook for a while and he seemed like a sweet kid, then he asked me to dinner, I said yes and he immediately started acting all cocky and texting me all day using sappy language. So I told him I couldn't go out (told him I didn't feel well, which wasn't a lie).
ANYWAYS, he keeps texting me all the time anyways. Then last night I get this:
"What's ur fav romantic movie? Frozen yogurt flavor and topping? Personal trait? Biggest turn off? the most memorable thing Ive said 2 u? Do u like surprises?"
I responded because I'm a nice person and hate ignoring people:
"When Harry Met Sally (I like Gone with the Wind and Casablanca but both of those end sadly); vanilla with oreo; ambition; baby talk; ha dunno; hate surprises"
He asks some more questions but I don't respond (I'm busy getting ready to go out)...Then 40 minutes later I notice that I have gotten 4 texts from him...
"I gotta be random w u. u don't respond well 2 blantant interest, prob bc bar/club exp. has told u tat bc ur cute, guys will do anything 2 get w u."
"Eh, im not tat way, but doesnt every1 say that? 1 want 2 get 2 kno u really. im in the same boat, very focused on my future, but u seem worth gettin 2 kno.
"So im jst havin fun askin u random questions that pop in2 my head. like: fav hobby? what made you fall in love? how many kids do u want? Fav restaurant?"
"I don't think you like it when im very open like that? I dont kno why. It wud be nice 2 kno what goes on in ur head."
I was kind of lost by all that but responded saying:
"Woah that was a lot of texts. I appreciate your honesty and interest but I really am not interested in you in that kind of way (aka romantic way), you are very nice and sweet but I don't want to lead you on."
So then he immediately goes on the defensive and I get these series of texts...literally one after the other...
"No prob, I actually appreciate the honesty. yeah I felt the same way, but figured i didn't want 2 make a call on it til i actually hung out w u once."
...Few minutes later...
"I always try 2 give ppl a very good chance before I decide. Would hate 2 misjudge someone's potential."
Me: No worries
"No prob, haha, its okay...I already knew we weren't gonna work; totally diff ppl, but great in our own ways. Tkae care babe. Hope u get everything u want in life."
So I thought that was the end of it...but then I get a FB CHAT from him.
Him: Hey thought this would be easier to chat on! So were you ever interested in me? Like when you met me at Hwood? I have a hard time knowing when girls are flirting with me or not...I was in a relationship that ended 2.5 mo ago and so I'm a little slow on this stuff right now.
Me: I flirt with everyone. Girls included.
Him: Haha, that should be your pickup line! I hear a lot of guys are into that...not me, I think its really gross when girls make out...but some guys think its really hot. Don't really understand why.
Me: Ummmm, I'm bi
Him: Oh really??
Well I actually have a lot of friends who are bi, believe it or not.
I'm not homophobic, I'm actually pretty liberal socially.........
I let him suffer for a while before telling him I wasn't really bi.
So just a re-cap for those who didn't read my post below...met a dorky guy at a club, accidentally gave him my number. We chatted via facebook for a while and he seemed like a sweet kid, then he asked me to dinner, I said yes and he immediately started acting all cocky and texting me all day using sappy language. So I told him I couldn't go out (told him I didn't feel well, which wasn't a lie).
ANYWAYS, he keeps texting me all the time anyways. Then last night I get this:
"What's ur fav romantic movie? Frozen yogurt flavor and topping? Personal trait? Biggest turn off? the most memorable thing Ive said 2 u? Do u like surprises?"
I responded because I'm a nice person and hate ignoring people:
"When Harry Met Sally (I like Gone with the Wind and Casablanca but both of those end sadly); vanilla with oreo; ambition; baby talk; ha dunno; hate surprises"
He asks some more questions but I don't respond (I'm busy getting ready to go out)...Then 40 minutes later I notice that I have gotten 4 texts from him...
"I gotta be random w u. u don't respond well 2 blantant interest, prob bc bar/club exp. has told u tat bc ur cute, guys will do anything 2 get w u."
"Eh, im not tat way, but doesnt every1 say that? 1 want 2 get 2 kno u really. im in the same boat, very focused on my future, but u seem worth gettin 2 kno.
"So im jst havin fun askin u random questions that pop in2 my head. like: fav hobby? what made you fall in love? how many kids do u want? Fav restaurant?"
"I don't think you like it when im very open like that? I dont kno why. It wud be nice 2 kno what goes on in ur head."
I was kind of lost by all that but responded saying:
"Woah that was a lot of texts. I appreciate your honesty and interest but I really am not interested in you in that kind of way (aka romantic way), you are very nice and sweet but I don't want to lead you on."
So then he immediately goes on the defensive and I get these series of texts...literally one after the other...
"No prob, I actually appreciate the honesty. yeah I felt the same way, but figured i didn't want 2 make a call on it til i actually hung out w u once."
...Few minutes later...
"I always try 2 give ppl a very good chance before I decide. Would hate 2 misjudge someone's potential."
Me: No worries
"No prob, haha, its okay...I already knew we weren't gonna work; totally diff ppl, but great in our own ways. Tkae care babe. Hope u get everything u want in life."
So I thought that was the end of it...but then I get a FB CHAT from him.
Him: Hey thought this would be easier to chat on! So were you ever interested in me? Like when you met me at Hwood? I have a hard time knowing when girls are flirting with me or not...I was in a relationship that ended 2.5 mo ago and so I'm a little slow on this stuff right now.
Me: I flirt with everyone. Girls included.
Him: Haha, that should be your pickup line! I hear a lot of guys are into that...not me, I think its really gross when girls make out...but some guys think its really hot. Don't really understand why.
Me: Ummmm, I'm bi
Him: Oh really??
Well I actually have a lot of friends who are bi, believe it or not.
I'm not homophobic, I'm actually pretty liberal socially.........
I let him suffer for a while before telling him I wasn't really bi.
talking to women makes men thick
So last weekend my friends and I went to HWood. I knew a promoter so we got in for free and even got some bottle service.
We immediately started dancing. This pretty cute guy came up and we danced for about half an hour. He was with two dorky friends who were dancing with my friends. After a while I lost my friends and I decided to leave the cute guy to go find the girls.
A while later, I lost my friends again (this is story of my life) and looking around, the only person I recognized was one of the cute guy's dorky friends. So I went up and started talking with him. He was really sweet, nerdy for sure...a little socially awkward. But we had a pretty good conversation.
He friended me on Facebook and we continued talking about random stuff, until he finally asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner that night. I had just made plans to go to dinner and a movie with another boy, so I asked if we could do it Saturday.
So later that evening, he starts texting me, calling me "gorgeous" and "babe" and using really sappy language that I don't like at all. All of a sudden, he was acting all cocky and shit. I didn't understand it at all! Someone smart forwarded me the link to this article, , which talks about how attractive women make men stupid. I can only assume that I am the cutest girl who has ever agreed to go out to dinner with him....what can I say, I've always liked nerds...and he got nervous or something. But the way he was acting was totally a turn off and I ended up canceling the date.
I felt bad, but better he know up front than let him pay for dinner for me.
We immediately started dancing. This pretty cute guy came up and we danced for about half an hour. He was with two dorky friends who were dancing with my friends. After a while I lost my friends and I decided to leave the cute guy to go find the girls.
A while later, I lost my friends again (this is story of my life) and looking around, the only person I recognized was one of the cute guy's dorky friends. So I went up and started talking with him. He was really sweet, nerdy for sure...a little socially awkward. But we had a pretty good conversation.
He friended me on Facebook and we continued talking about random stuff, until he finally asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner that night. I had just made plans to go to dinner and a movie with another boy, so I asked if we could do it Saturday.
So later that evening, he starts texting me, calling me "gorgeous" and "babe" and using really sappy language that I don't like at all. All of a sudden, he was acting all cocky and shit. I didn't understand it at all! Someone smart forwarded me the link to this article, , which talks about how attractive women make men stupid. I can only assume that I am the cutest girl who has ever agreed to go out to dinner with him....what can I say, I've always liked nerds...and he got nervous or something. But the way he was acting was totally a turn off and I ended up canceling the date.
I felt bad, but better he know up front than let him pay for dinner for me.
The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
Well I have just finished my 9th book in about 5 weeks. I can't deny that I'm pretty proud of myself. I feel like I owe a lot of it to these new pills I'm taking. I hadn't realized how long it had been since I had actually finished a book! I used to read all the time, but for ages my concentration had been so bad because of anxiety and I just couldn't get through anything.
While it isn't the high-brow literature that I often gravitate to, Neil Strauss's "The Game" has been a fun little piece of entertainment and a bit of a learning tool. Although it may seem sexist outwardly, in the end the seduction process is really about making the guys themselves more confident and finding in themselves the interesting, fun, relaxed nature that has been there all along. The guys who don't discover themselves and leave the community by the end, are considered the losers in the book. They are basically social robots.
I'm kind of excited to go out into the real world and see if someone tries to "sarge" me. I totally called a guy who the other night by asking if he was "peacocking," which led to a fun conversation about the book. Guys have been really impressed that I've read it.
Of course, the one thing that disturbed me the most about the book, was the rule that the pickup artist never buys a girl a drink....I dunno about you, but that would never work for me. If I'm talking to a guy and my drink runs out and he doesn't buy me another one, I don't think he has enough interest in me or the conversation and I go back to my friends and maybe start talking to someone new. They aren't worth my time if they aren't enough of a gentleman to get me a drink.
While it isn't the high-brow literature that I often gravitate to, Neil Strauss's "The Game" has been a fun little piece of entertainment and a bit of a learning tool. Although it may seem sexist outwardly, in the end the seduction process is really about making the guys themselves more confident and finding in themselves the interesting, fun, relaxed nature that has been there all along. The guys who don't discover themselves and leave the community by the end, are considered the losers in the book. They are basically social robots.
I'm kind of excited to go out into the real world and see if someone tries to "sarge" me. I totally called a guy who the other night by asking if he was "peacocking," which led to a fun conversation about the book. Guys have been really impressed that I've read it.
Of course, the one thing that disturbed me the most about the book, was the rule that the pickup artist never buys a girl a drink....I dunno about you, but that would never work for me. If I'm talking to a guy and my drink runs out and he doesn't buy me another one, I don't think he has enough interest in me or the conversation and I go back to my friends and maybe start talking to someone new. They aren't worth my time if they aren't enough of a gentleman to get me a drink.
Would You Kiss A Girl?
"I feel much safer with girls, so I felt more comfortable kissing her in the movie than kissing any of the other people that I had to kiss."
I have seen this quote a couple times now. I don't really see what the big deal is! Girls feel comfortable with other girls, there isn't any expectation as there might be with a boy. Most girls have practiced making out with their friends. I remember a time when I had made out with far more girls than boys. Haha, now its been ages since I've kissed a girl. I used to think it was funny and playful...making out is fun after all! And with another girl, you don't have to worry about her trying to get in your pants :)
Thoughts?
The Lovely Bitches
After months of passing by this book and not paying it much attention, I finally picked up "Why Men Love Bitches." This is NEVER the sort of book I would have read in the past, but after all my recent relationship drama, I was curious to see if this book possibly had something to offer that I was somehow missing.
From the acknowledgement at the beginning, I was sucked in. In Sherry Argov's mindset, the term "bitch" did not refer to some evil encompassed woman, who treated everyone else as if they were cockroaches. But instead, she used "bitch" to denote a woman who respected herself above all else and would never compromise who she is or what she stands for to be with a man. I liked this message so far!
While the book was a incredibly repetitive, perhaps its what some women really need--to be drilled the same ideas over and over again, in order to knock them out of their stringent ways. After all, giving advice to another woman is always easier than actually following your good advice in your own everyday life. I am the sort of girl who likes to wear a tiara when I'm hanging out around the house and expects to be treated like a princess, and of course, I am fully willing to engage in acts of kindness for the guy....but I certainly would not partake in these acts of kindness if they were inequitable.
...Or would I?
A look back at the summer months will prove that I was constantly doing favors for B, and while he was very affectionate and did take care of me on several occassions, I was probably giving more than I was getting.
The book stresses that you should limit your availability to a man. You should not drop everything you are doing when he calls and invites you over or skip out on plans on the chance that he may call. You should live your life and if you are able to pencil him in from time to time, good for you! If not, don't sweat it! Women who are too available will quickly grow boring--because they don't have lives of their own! Men figure these things out and they are way more interested in a woman who has a life.
I realize that in the boredom of a summer in which most of my friends were interning or working 70+ hour weeks, B was the only one around to hang out with at times and I definitely made myself too available to him. He'd go out with friends and then call me to come over afterwards, and I rarely told him I was busy and couldn't come. I was interested in taking these belly dancing classes Thursday mornings, but each week, I was too cozy in his bed to get up and go to those classes. I went out to breakfast with him instead. These are just a few examples of how I acted like the silly girl that I typically pride myself in NOT BEING!
So now I am fully prepared for my next relationship. I am always going to be nice and polite and appreciative...but I will not make myself too available, I will demand respect and full integrity--because I don't have to be there! And I will definitely put myself first the next time, after all, boys come and go...but the relationship you have with yourself, that's the one that lasts forever.
Has anyone else read the book and have an opinion? Or simply want to vent about examples of how we don't take our own good advice? :)
From the acknowledgement at the beginning, I was sucked in. In Sherry Argov's mindset, the term "bitch" did not refer to some evil encompassed woman, who treated everyone else as if they were cockroaches. But instead, she used "bitch" to denote a woman who respected herself above all else and would never compromise who she is or what she stands for to be with a man. I liked this message so far!
While the book was a incredibly repetitive, perhaps its what some women really need--to be drilled the same ideas over and over again, in order to knock them out of their stringent ways. After all, giving advice to another woman is always easier than actually following your good advice in your own everyday life. I am the sort of girl who likes to wear a tiara when I'm hanging out around the house and expects to be treated like a princess, and of course, I am fully willing to engage in acts of kindness for the guy....but I certainly would not partake in these acts of kindness if they were inequitable.
...Or would I?
A look back at the summer months will prove that I was constantly doing favors for B, and while he was very affectionate and did take care of me on several occassions, I was probably giving more than I was getting.
The book stresses that you should limit your availability to a man. You should not drop everything you are doing when he calls and invites you over or skip out on plans on the chance that he may call. You should live your life and if you are able to pencil him in from time to time, good for you! If not, don't sweat it! Women who are too available will quickly grow boring--because they don't have lives of their own! Men figure these things out and they are way more interested in a woman who has a life.
I realize that in the boredom of a summer in which most of my friends were interning or working 70+ hour weeks, B was the only one around to hang out with at times and I definitely made myself too available to him. He'd go out with friends and then call me to come over afterwards, and I rarely told him I was busy and couldn't come. I was interested in taking these belly dancing classes Thursday mornings, but each week, I was too cozy in his bed to get up and go to those classes. I went out to breakfast with him instead. These are just a few examples of how I acted like the silly girl that I typically pride myself in NOT BEING!
So now I am fully prepared for my next relationship. I am always going to be nice and polite and appreciative...but I will not make myself too available, I will demand respect and full integrity--because I don't have to be there! And I will definitely put myself first the next time, after all, boys come and go...but the relationship you have with yourself, that's the one that lasts forever.
Has anyone else read the book and have an opinion? Or simply want to vent about examples of how we don't take our own good advice? :)
50 days of summer
I saw 500 days of summer tonight with my mom. I would have loved it normally, but tonight it reminded me way too much of the situation i recently went through. except that i was the pathetic joseph gordon-levitt and the boy was summer. except that in this situation he wasn't as upfront as summer. at least SHE told him that she didn't want a relationship at the very start.
I just spluged on a bunch of itunes music....its therapeutic for some reason. I don't sing anymore....normally when i'm going through a happy period, i sing a lot...like when I'm in the car...and i haven't done that in a long time.
I got a book about his country from the library...is that pathetic? Maybe....i read the whole thing in one afternoon. I don't think i had any epiphanies though.
I just spluged on a bunch of itunes music....its therapeutic for some reason. I don't sing anymore....normally when i'm going through a happy period, i sing a lot...like when I'm in the car...and i haven't done that in a long time.
I got a book about his country from the library...is that pathetic? Maybe....i read the whole thing in one afternoon. I don't think i had any epiphanies though.
Sirens of Titan
"It took us that long to realize that a purpose of
human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love
whoever is around to be loved." (Vonnegut:220)
This was my favorite line in The Sirens of Titan. I think its a nice message.
human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love
whoever is around to be loved." (Vonnegut:220)
This was my favorite line in The Sirens of Titan. I think its a nice message.
Commitment Issues
I am trying to write this screenplay for my class. I like the subject matter, characters are mildly entertaining. And yet I cannot stick to it! Every time I start working on it, my mind wanders to my newest screenplay idea and all I want to write about is that. I can't decipher which is the more sensible premise to explore. Why must I be so indecisive?! Ugh, its quite annoying really. Bassel always asks me where I want to eat and I always say "I don't care." I usually don't though. As long as it isn't seafood or Vistango, I am usually fine with whatever. I am picky, but can usually find something to eat wherever we go. I always feel that if someone else feels strongly, I'd just assume do what they want because I'm easy. I don't know if this is me not being able to make up my mind, or me just being extremely agreeable. Or maybe somewhere in the middle?
Commitment issues aren't new to me...they seem to pervade my life every which way I go. I am indecisive and am bad at communicating--usually because I can't decide what I want--which causes a lot of problems. Oh well. I've matured a little over the years, but I'm still no expert. Its so much easier to just go with the flow and evade questions...its nice that way for a while...until it isn't. I wish someone would just tell me what to do sometimes. Tell me what to do so that neither me, nor anyone else, gets hurt. But there is no such person. There is only me.
Commitment issues aren't new to me...they seem to pervade my life every which way I go. I am indecisive and am bad at communicating--usually because I can't decide what I want--which causes a lot of problems. Oh well. I've matured a little over the years, but I'm still no expert. Its so much easier to just go with the flow and evade questions...its nice that way for a while...until it isn't. I wish someone would just tell me what to do sometimes. Tell me what to do so that neither me, nor anyone else, gets hurt. But there is no such person. There is only me.
Plays, Strippers, and More
So last night Roham invited me to go see this play that his friend was in. It was called Into the Pines and was at the blackbox on campus. USC's blackbox is really tiny. Ours at Westlake was much nicer. Going to see the play made me nostalgic for high school when I got to participate in all the shows. I really loved doing theatre. Its a shame that I can't participate in acting any more....but film production is just so grueling!
After the show, a group of us went to Santa Monica to this bar. It was pretty fun. We all danced and had a nice time. But then another friend showed up, and I guess he got mad because I was dancing with another friend. So that whole situation was just awkward. I felt like property. Some prize to be won. Not like I even had a say in things! It felt very awkward for me, especially since no one was talking to me about what was going on. It was all being dealt with by the boys.
After that we went to this strip club. It was surprisingly fun. Kind of random. But I had never done it before and I love new experiences! One of the strippers came over and started talking to us. Her name was Monique. She is 25 and she told us she has a 9 year old son! She talked about how he doesn't know what she does for a living, he thinks she goes and sells drinks each night. When she comes home, he asks her, "did you sell a lot of drinks tonight, mommy?" I love kids. Isn't the innocence so sweet. I wish we could all stay like that forever. Not get all caught up in the craziness of the adult world. Everything was so much simpler back then, and pleasure was so easy to come by. Monique told me I was really pretty and invited me up on stage! Luckily I was sobering up and I had enough sense to say no thanks.
Later when I was waiting in line for the restroom, I met this producer guy. He told me that he worked on Marley and Me and Superbad, which is cool. He tried to get me to go into the bathroom with him and do coke, but of course, I graciously declined :) Crazy entertainment people! I wonder if these are the sorts I will always be dealing with....
After the show, a group of us went to Santa Monica to this bar. It was pretty fun. We all danced and had a nice time. But then another friend showed up, and I guess he got mad because I was dancing with another friend. So that whole situation was just awkward. I felt like property. Some prize to be won. Not like I even had a say in things! It felt very awkward for me, especially since no one was talking to me about what was going on. It was all being dealt with by the boys.
After that we went to this strip club. It was surprisingly fun. Kind of random. But I had never done it before and I love new experiences! One of the strippers came over and started talking to us. Her name was Monique. She is 25 and she told us she has a 9 year old son! She talked about how he doesn't know what she does for a living, he thinks she goes and sells drinks each night. When she comes home, he asks her, "did you sell a lot of drinks tonight, mommy?" I love kids. Isn't the innocence so sweet. I wish we could all stay like that forever. Not get all caught up in the craziness of the adult world. Everything was so much simpler back then, and pleasure was so easy to come by. Monique told me I was really pretty and invited me up on stage! Luckily I was sobering up and I had enough sense to say no thanks.
Later when I was waiting in line for the restroom, I met this producer guy. He told me that he worked on Marley and Me and Superbad, which is cool. He tried to get me to go into the bathroom with him and do coke, but of course, I graciously declined :) Crazy entertainment people! I wonder if these are the sorts I will always be dealing with....
Seriously.
I worry that people don't take me seriously. I know my close friends do, but I don't think the vast majority of people do. They see this cute girl who bounces around in dresses and doesn't seem to have a worry in her head. And I know I might perpetuate this image at times because I do like acting friendly and bubbly. But I can definitely be serious and I do have many worthwhile thoughts in my head. I am a smart girl! So many boys are interested in me. I am so worried that they only see me as this piece of ass--someone who isn't going to amount to much, but is fun to mess around with. There aren't a lot of pretty girls in film, really. I get booty calls at least 3 nights a week. I am very flattered that people find me pretty, but I really want to be seen as a serious film student at the same time.
I am too nice also. I feel like I have been such a big person about so many things lately. I suck it up and put my feelings aside for the good of other people because I am too nice of a person and too good of a friend. But that doesn't ever get me anywhere. I know I can't change. I'm never going to be a bitch. I am always going to apologize first because I don't feel staying mad is never worth it and I hate being in fights more than anything. Today I helped out a friend who was chosen as a directing finalist in tossing around some script ideas. It was a bit painful for me to discuss the scripts, as I was not one of the chosen candidates. But I want to give her the best chance possible, so when she asked me if I'd help her, of course, I said yes. I am very happy for her. But now I kind of feel sad for myself right now. Discussing the scripts, reminded me again just how much I wanted this opportunity to prove myself.
The faculty apparently sees nothing worthwhile about me. I feel like I have so much potential and no one ever notices. I am invisible. I wish I'd just blow away with the wind.
I am too nice also. I feel like I have been such a big person about so many things lately. I suck it up and put my feelings aside for the good of other people because I am too nice of a person and too good of a friend. But that doesn't ever get me anywhere. I know I can't change. I'm never going to be a bitch. I am always going to apologize first because I don't feel staying mad is never worth it and I hate being in fights more than anything. Today I helped out a friend who was chosen as a directing finalist in tossing around some script ideas. It was a bit painful for me to discuss the scripts, as I was not one of the chosen candidates. But I want to give her the best chance possible, so when she asked me if I'd help her, of course, I said yes. I am very happy for her. But now I kind of feel sad for myself right now. Discussing the scripts, reminded me again just how much I wanted this opportunity to prove myself.
The faculty apparently sees nothing worthwhile about me. I feel like I have so much potential and no one ever notices. I am invisible. I wish I'd just blow away with the wind.
He Loves Me, He Loves Me NOT
Somehow I always seem to be the center for information and knowledge. I get the random calls and texts from my friends about our film projects....When is the directing project due? How should I format my resume? What time is the meeting? Etc. In addition to the scholarly stuff, I also seem to be a person whom people feel comfortable talking to and relaying information to. I like this role, I like helping people. Sometimes it can be troubling though. I worry that I am giving the best form of advice to people. I know that everyone is different and everyone has different needs in terms of forms of advice. I try to adapt to each friend and be what they need me to be at that particular moment. Whether its advice on something major, or a shoulder to cry on, or just someone to listen to all the thoughts roaming around in their heads.
Sometimes I have to say things that people don't want to hear. That is hard. I have this friend who has been in a troubling relationship for months upon months now. And she just will not give it up. Its the most frustrating thing in the world! I have to counsel her all the time and she still does not see what a bad situation this is. I know that breaking up is hard to do, but if things are bad for a certain amount of time, you just have to be realistic in knowing that they aren't ever going to go back to how they were. Relationships are supposed to be fun! And when they aren't, then they need to end! Relationships shouldn't be that hard!
I am listening to a friend obsess over her ex/current boyfriend (I have lost track) at this very moment. She wants me to tell her that he is still in love with her, but I don't think I can do that. I don't like insisting things that I don't know for sure are true. I don't get girls' hopes up just to make them feel better, I can reassure them that they will find love again. But I'm not going to make up stories about how their boy will definitely come crawling back to them. I am a complete realist about matters of the heart, and I don't think it helps to initiate false hopes in people. Sometimes the truth stinks. But I'd rather hear a stinky truth than a falsity.
Girls are so silly sometimes. I don't get it. For some reason, I have a feeling that my mind works different than a lot of girls my age. I react to things so much differently, I don't obsess over boys or over-analyze what to text to them. I just do it, and I feel confident in my decision without having to ask a gaggle of other girls first. Its funny, because I am so girly in some ways, and so un-girly in others!
Sometimes I have to say things that people don't want to hear. That is hard. I have this friend who has been in a troubling relationship for months upon months now. And she just will not give it up. Its the most frustrating thing in the world! I have to counsel her all the time and she still does not see what a bad situation this is. I know that breaking up is hard to do, but if things are bad for a certain amount of time, you just have to be realistic in knowing that they aren't ever going to go back to how they were. Relationships are supposed to be fun! And when they aren't, then they need to end! Relationships shouldn't be that hard!
I am listening to a friend obsess over her ex/current boyfriend (I have lost track) at this very moment. She wants me to tell her that he is still in love with her, but I don't think I can do that. I don't like insisting things that I don't know for sure are true. I don't get girls' hopes up just to make them feel better, I can reassure them that they will find love again. But I'm not going to make up stories about how their boy will definitely come crawling back to them. I am a complete realist about matters of the heart, and I don't think it helps to initiate false hopes in people. Sometimes the truth stinks. But I'd rather hear a stinky truth than a falsity.
Girls are so silly sometimes. I don't get it. For some reason, I have a feeling that my mind works different than a lot of girls my age. I react to things so much differently, I don't obsess over boys or over-analyze what to text to them. I just do it, and I feel confident in my decision without having to ask a gaggle of other girls first. Its funny, because I am so girly in some ways, and so un-girly in others!
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